Jealousy Episodes

You learn so much in childhood. How to walk, how to talk, how to do multiplication and division. Unfortuantely, for some though, you also learn to be fearful, to not trust. We learn not to get too happy because any minute, the other shoe will fall. Today's guest, Reneau Peurifoy, author of 4 different books on anxiety, anger, and emotions, shares his knowledge from over 20 years as an MFT working with anxiety and other related disorders, shares why although not healthy, dysfunction can feel re...

Trauma leaves a chemical mark on a persons genes that is passed down to the next generation according to today's guest Dr. Galit Atlas. It's about family secrets and the secrets we keep from ourselves that also keep us from living to our full potential. Dr. Atlas is a psychoanalyst exploring the unconscious of her patients and shares how the emotional inheritance and the legacy of trauma is passed down from generation to generation in her book titled Emotional Inheritance: A Therapist, Her Pa...

In today's quick dump episode, I share 5 statements I decided to stop making to my partner that changed the dynamic of our relationship. Most of the time, you don't even realize how the words you choose can come across. Even when you feel like you're being really clear or you mean what you're saying in the moment, these 5 statements are usually a signal to disaster. For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group What's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealo...

Did you know that toxic stress decreases the size and impairs the function of different regions of the brain that are actually responsible for our learning, our executive functioning, our memory ? Candace Alley, a five time internationally certified coach and the founder and CEO of Trauma Resource Network shares that: trauma is not a particular event, but rather how the brain processes that event every persons healing journey is as individual and unique as your fingerprints trauma doe...

One of the reasons it took me so long to overcome my jealousy is because I kept getting stuck or there would be long periods of time I wasn't working to improve it. I started to notice a pattern of these times and today I am sharing 3 things that could be slowing down your progress of becoming more confident and overcoming jealousy in your relationship. Here are the 3 a makeup a breakup a hiccup but I dive deep into each one and give you some examples I experienced so you know what to look...

Did you know when your brain is operating under duress, all of the "parts" are not coordinating which can ramp up your jealous mind. Our brains have a negative bias because it wants to save us. It wants to keep us safe from danger. But overload causes the brain to get out of symphony. Leader in the field of stress mastery, Dr. Cindi Ackrill shares what stress and comparison does to your brain and the intersection between how grounded you are and when you start to compare. Cindi also shares: ...

It all feels like its falling apart when you screw up and show your jealous side... AGAIN. But, there is an important mindset to have when you are trying to tame your jealousy and in today's episode, I'm sharing the importance of practicing, not mastering. For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group What's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie Website Connect with your host, Shanenn on Instagram Disclaimer The information on this podcast or a...

Life strategist, relationship specialist, creative solution finder, and heart-centered problem solver, Sarah Ramsey lets a surprisingly simple philosophy guide her: indecision is the enemy of success. Viewing clear decision-making as the ultimate form of self-care, Sarah brings life-changing clarity to formulating solutions for those pesky problems that often seem impenetrable on the surface. Her book, Problem Solved, provides readers with a system for breaking down complex issues into sim...

In this quick dump episode, I'm sharing O.N.E. thing I did to break my negative mindset and take off the green lense I saw life through. Our adult brain can be lazy and it wants to refer back to old patterns of information we learned in the past. If those patterns are negative, they stand out even more and shapes the way we view life and approach situations we interpret as similar. To shift these pattens, its all about being open because often its our mindset that keeps us stuck with repeating...

Aviation is one of those professions that has always been associated with infidelity and cheating, but Jackie Ulmer believes that every situation is as unique as the people involved. Jackie is a peak performance coach who has been married to a pilot for more than 30 years. She worked in aviation for eight years before becoming a pilot’s wife, meeting lots of regional airline crews and spending time as a crew scheduler and flight attendant along the way. So as you might imagine, Jackie doesn't...

Is your partner a narcissist? If you feel like they are, it may be true, so we decided to present 10 warning signs to watch out for so you can know for sure. In this episode you will learn: 1. Learning about narcissism in order to emancipate yourself from self-blame and self-doubt. 2. Understanding that narcissism exists along a spectrum, and that not everyone with narcissistic traits has a personality disorder. 3. Recognizing the role of the inner critic in fueling jealousy and insecurity, a...

All of us tend to lead with our thinking mind, which only makes up about 10% of who we actually are. There are other parts of our brain that have a larger capacity to accurately intake the information around us. However these parts of our mind are difficult to tap into, which is why there are tools such as hypnotherapy that can be used to enter these wiser faculties of our mind and help aid us in dealing with unpleasant feelings and emotions like jealousy. On today’s episode, medical doctor a...

In this episode, Shanenn walks through an exercise she did to stop her jealous actions. She breaks these action habits into two categories Undercover Action Habits Direct Action Habits Download the Action Habits Worksheet to follow along to identify and tame your jealous actions. Connect with Shanenn: Website Instagram For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group What's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie Website Connect with your host, S...

“We need to understand that being kind to ourselves has nothing to do with stuffing down our feelings or burying them, or smothering them with consumerism or addiction. It's really about looking inward. Seeing what feelings and what needs are there and trying to find realistic and compassionate solutions.” - Dr. Marcia Sirota Being kind in our society is unfortunately very rare. Not just kindness to others, but kindness to ourselves as well. There seems to be a common theme among society, ...

Jealousy can be insidious. It can cause us to unravel and mistrust ourselves to the point of exhaustion. Also, what feels like a deep knowing can oftentimes come across as a possible fear because of how activated our nervous system is at the thought of a partner cheating. Intuition is real and it can be trusted. As long as you know how to differentiate your intuition from anxiety and fear, it can be used as a powerful tool to help guide you in all areas of your life, especially when experi...

The truth is, we are hardwired as humans to not want to apologize. It is one of the most difficult things to do on a cultural and neurological level. Feeling as though we did something wrong and that we hurt someone is not the way we want to feel about ourselves, so in an instant our brain chooses to protect itself. However, what if apologizing was looked at through a different lens? What if we used apologies as a way to create better connections with a partner and make big changes that could he...

Have you ever considered what your jealousy trying to accomplish? If you flip jealousy on it's head and think of it in the best possible way, could it be the solution? Dr. Susan Heilter wrote about this in Psychology Today and it really changed the way I viewed my jealousy. This lead to a super cool exercise that I am sharing with you on today's episode. as well as what I discovered from it. Connect with Shanenn: https://www.jealousyjunkie.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jealousyjunkiecoach For...

The aftermath of a betrayal can be devastating. So many questions, heartache and challenges that come when there is an affair in a relationship. Could you, should you try to rebuild the relationship? In today's episode, clinical psychologist, Ruth Ann Harpur who specializes in relationships, discusses the delicate work of rebuilding the relationship after a betrayal. Dr. Harpur says often the offender will "drip" information to the offended causing additional trauma with each unveiling of a ne...

If you've ever researched..."why am I jealous" you may have been left with more questions than answers. In this episode, Dr. Genesis Games walks you through what may be at the root of your jealousy and insecurities. You'll get a deep dive into each of the attachment styles and why it's important to know yours. Secure Attachment Anxious Attachment Avoidant Attachment Combo of Anxious-Avoidant (relationship fireworks x 10) Wondering how to feel more secure in relationships? Dr. G...

My name is Shanenn Bryant, and I'm am a certified life coach and one of the few to focus on overcoming jealousy in relationships. For many years, I was extremely insecure and jealous in my relationships and thought it was just the way I am and the way I would always be. I also thought I was the only one who struggled with this. Until one day I was handed a piece of paper from a therapist as she invited me to "not come back" (more about that story later). The paper was what the ACA (Adult child...

What can you do when you're on the verge of a jealous meltdown or anxiety meltdown? Just need 1 thing you can do differently to allow you to respond versus react? I'm chatting it up with stress management coach Jessica Harrington and she gives you several 1 things you can do in those times you're feeling a little out of control of your emotions. Help Jessica support the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention https://supporting.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=donorDrive.participant&participan...

If you struggle with insecurities and jealousy in your relationship, this podcast is for you! Often these insecurities come from childhood or experience with betrayal and cheating partners in past relationships. This can leave you with feelings of jealousy and insecurity in your current relationship, even when there's no evidence or grounds to be worried. Former jealous girl, Shanenn Bryant, brings on experts in their field to tackle this green-eyed monster once and for all. Join us each week...