Jealousy Episodes

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance. From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what we can do to reclaim our identity and energy. Whether you’re a high-achieving mom, coach, or recovering perfectionist, this episode will ...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life. Whether you’re obsessively checking your partner’s texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pain from your past, Bob’s message is clear: your attachments are stealing your peace. Together, they unpack how detaching from control, perfection...

🎙️ Where my freaks at? Control Freaks that is. In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour. Shanenn and Joanna talk about: How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been messing with you since you lost your first tooth 🛡️ The Jerry Maguire "you complete me" line is such a bad representation of the way relat...

This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation. As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory. Wonder why no matter how much you tell yourself you're not going to be jealous anymore and then just a few days later you find yourself in a jealous mel...

As most of us Jealousy Junkies are clinging on to our partners. Marriage and Sex Therapist Dr. Corey Allen says... a couple's problems could be a result of them being too close. Not leaving room for individuality. I thought this was a really important message I wanted you to hear because it isn't smothering in the way we make it out to be... it means there is too tight of a grip for growth and change and THAT is what lands you on Corey's couch and gives him and his wife material for their amazin...

What if you could decode the mysterious signals your body and mind send you every day? Together with mindset coach, Dr. Ashley Greer, we'll discuss how a clear mind can help differentiate between fear and intuition. As we walk you through the process of sitting with your emotions, expect to explore how your own thought patterns could reshape how you approach your everyday life. Did you know you can also improve your trust in your intuition? Ashely shares how you an do this by starting out with ...

Your emotions drive your actions, especially in relationships? In our latest episode, we sit down with Martina Booth, a relationship visionary and emotional artist, who's mastered the art of processing feelings and navigating emotional dependencies. Martina shines light on how jealousy in relationships stems from old wounds and the void we have within ourselves. In the episode she shares: her unique insights on the concept of 'ordinary trauma' and how it impacts our daily lives a vivid p...

Struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety? You're not alone. Join us this week for a great conversation about anxiety and intrusive thoughts with special guest, Dr. Martin Seif, a distinguished clinical psychologist and anxiety treatment specialist. We talk about the intricate world of intrusive thoughts, drawing a clear line between fleeting and persistent intrusive thoughts. Dr. Seif sheds light on the paradox of thought suppression, explaining why efforts to evade certain thoughts only ...

Self-discovery can happen with just small minor shifts and this week, Nichole Lee, an identity + life transition coach AND holistic practitioner shares her insights into the delicate process of self-exploration, emphasizing the importance of a safe, non-judgmental space. Together, we navigate the potential triggers of solo exploration and affirm the power of partnership during these transformative moments. Nichole and I challenge you to carve out dedicated time for self-discovery, advocating for tweaks in your daily routines to encourage personal growth. Listen as we: unveil the role of bringing body intelligence to the forefront. explore the profound connection between our minds, bodies, and emotional healing. recognize how our habitual tendencies and implanted memories can keep us stuck discover how simple tools like visualization and meditation can release these blocks, leading to harmony. Prepare to be inspired, transformed, and fully engaged in this discuss…

Ever wondered why you don't trust your partner as much as yourself? Curious about the double standards you set in your relationship, often without realizing it? Tune in for an eye-opening discussion about trust dynamics in relationships. My deep dive is set to reshape your understanding of trust, insecurity, and jealousy. Why we give ourselves more liberty than we do our partners? I discuss the projection of our needs onto our partners and how this triggers an insatiable need for reassurance....

Are you ready to reignite the tingly energy of your inner masculine lover? That's precisely what this episode is all about, with our guest, Amy Lee Westervelt. Together, we address the habit of seeking external validation instead of harnessing internal energy and how to navigate the feelings of jealousy and insecurity that can arise in relationships. We also venture into the empowering realm of changing our inner voice. Get ready to tap into your inner masculine and create a protective and dev...

If you're someone who's insecure, you may be self-centered in a way you haven't thought of before. You may think everything is about you. All the problems, anything that goes wrong, if someone is upset. In this episode, I challenge you to start being self-centered in a different way. in a way that better serves you and even your relationship. This month's episodes have been about being in the present and this one is no exception as today is a great day to turn your focus away from your partner...

It's time to stop judging without mercy and stop trying to control unpredictable events. Reflecting on the "Adult Children of Alcoholics" (ACA) list was a turning point, a moment that brought me a lot of clarity and started me on my self-development journey. Drawing from my personal experiences, I'm sharing one of the 14 common behavior characteristics from the ACA Laundry List and the recent epiphany I had that is tied to it for anyone who grew up in a similar dysfunctional environment as I d...

Do you know you might even be controlling when you argue with your partner? I know it may seem hard to believe because your first thought is probably... I hate arguing with my partner. I hate to say it, but as much as you hate it, you may be the huffing and puffing and blowing the house up just as things are going really well. If you grew up in a dysfunctional environment like I did, where every day there was drama, fighting or wondering when the next big thing is going to happen, you might be...

You know when you feel like you can't control your actions? Your in a massive jealous rant and it seems like some one or some thing has taken over your body. You're saying things and doing things on autopilot as if you cant help what's happening. Shanenn sits down with Dr. Catherine Pittman, author of Rewire Your Anxious Brain, Taming Your Amygdala, and Rewire Your OCD Brain to uncover why this happening and you might be right, you don't have control over it. But, the great news is, she gives ...

Sometimes to get out of a rut, you have to shake things up a bit and changing your perspective on the way you think and communicate about your jealousy might be just what you need. In this episode, Shanenn discusses 3 different areas you could shake things up as it pertains to jealousy. Reframe your approach in both your communication to your partner and your thoughts about how big it is and acknowledge that jealousy may always be present in you to some degree, so you will start by just focusi...

Dr. Joli Hamilton, a relationship coach and research psychologist, known for her expertise in the field of jealousy joins the show today. Her research explores the archetypal nature of emotions and their purpose, with a focus on jealousy in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. If you still feel embarrassed about your jealousy or continuously ask yourself "Is this normal or is this my jealousy?" then today's episode will mot likely hit the spot. Dr. Hamilton and Shanenn discuss:...

This episode discusses emotions and Why You Feel The Way You Do. One of the many books written by Reneau Peurifoy

He's been on the Larry King Now show, Dr. Drew, Fox and Friends and now the Jealousy Junkie podcast! This episode's guest is transformational speaker and best selling author, Kute Blackson and he's here to help you understand and move closer to the magic of surrender. As jealousy junkies, we have a strong feeling to control. Control our environment, and our partner's environment in an attempt to protect ourselves. As you'll hear from Kute, when we control, we actually give up our power. We fe...

Is the attractive person sitting next to your partner at the dinner table a tiger? No, of course not. But yet, you respond with fight or flight mode as if it's life or death. You hate being uncomfortable and probably have never learned or practiced how to sit with uncomfortable. When you feel jealous, you want that feeling to go away as quickly as possible, and by any means possible, often leaving your partner and anyone around with the uncomfortableness of your actions as you try to relieve y...

Our obsessions seem so magnified, so big and out of control and we let that become "who" and "what" we think we are. Because we're so focused on our jealousy, we begin to believe it's the only thing we bring to a relationship; insecurity and jealousy. Have you ever considered accepting that jealousy and knowing that it's just a part of you. It's not all of you. I even guide you to pick the jealous part of you. I along with many others will be a guest speaker at the Healing Family Trauma FREE...

Have you ever been more curious than you should be about your partner’s past lovers? Where one question about their past turned into five, which turned into ten, then felt that very uncomfortable pang of jealousy? This type of jealousy is called retroactive jealousy. One of the more insidious types of jealousy because it is referring to the past, which no one can undo. Retroactive jealousy can not only ruin an otherwise healthy relationship, it can also be detrimental to your mental health goin...

Did you know you're being rude when you shrug off a compliment? After blowing off a compliment my husband gave me, he asked "Why can't you just absorb a compliment"? That made me wonder... why can't I? What's behind that? What I learned was much more than I expected and realized we're actually being rude when we don't respond appropriately to a compliment. I also have a challenge for you and give you some science behind why it's hard to give compliments and why you should practice absorbing a...

Recently, my husband and I traveled to Costa Rica for a conference. We stayed in a beautiful hotel overlooking the beach and had a ton of fun experiences BUT day 4 would send me into a tailspin I haven't been in for a very, very long time. In today's episode, I'm sharing lessons learned and why my mini meltdown is important to you. For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group ...