Relationships Episodes

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life. Whether you’re obsessively checking your partner’s texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pain from your past, Bob’s message is clear: your attachments are stealing your peace. Together, they unpack how detaching from control, perfection...

Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner? Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be? Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question? Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answering. It's very possible we're not asking relationship strengthening questions or posing our questions in the right way and here to tell you what you...

This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation. As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory. Wonder why no matter how much you tell yourself you're not going to be jealous anymore and then just a few days later you find yourself in a jealous mel...

Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help. You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and this could be keeping you stuck. According to my guest today, Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and host of 'The Psychology of Performance', shares his insights on the detrimental effects of positive thinking when misapplied. This very thing is the reason I was kicked out of therapy. I kept trying to figure out how to fix the fact that I was angry at...

As most of us Jealousy Junkies are clinging on to our partners. Marriage and Sex Therapist Dr. Corey Allen says... a couple's problems could be a result of them being too close. Not leaving room for individuality. I thought this was a really important message I wanted you to hear because it isn't smothering in the way we make it out to be... it means there is too tight of a grip for growth and change and THAT is what lands you on Corey's couch and gives him and his wife material for their amazin...

Did you know your food can affect your mood? I thought I was just in a bad mood. Turns out, it could be the food I ate. :) Go beyond your typical New Year's resolutions and redefine your relationship with food, your body, and your well-being. Our special guest, Tina Hong, an accomplished Executive Health and Wellness Coach and NLP mindset practitioner, shares the path for women seeking not just change—but renewal—in their personal and professional lives. We have a great chat about food and min...

What if you could decode the mysterious signals your body and mind send you every day? Together with mindset coach, Dr. Ashley Greer, we'll discuss how a clear mind can help differentiate between fear and intuition. As we walk you through the process of sitting with your emotions, expect to explore how your own thought patterns could reshape how you approach your everyday life. Did you know you can also improve your trust in your intuition? Ashely shares how you an do this by starting out with ...

Your emotions drive your actions, especially in relationships? In our latest episode, we sit down with Martina Booth, a relationship visionary and emotional artist, who's mastered the art of processing feelings and navigating emotional dependencies. Martina shines light on how jealousy in relationships stems from old wounds and the void we have within ourselves. In the episode she shares: her unique insights on the concept of 'ordinary trauma' and how it impacts our daily lives a vivid p...

Struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety? You're not alone. Join us this week for a great conversation about anxiety and intrusive thoughts with special guest, Dr. Martin Seif, a distinguished clinical psychologist and anxiety treatment specialist. We talk about the intricate world of intrusive thoughts, drawing a clear line between fleeting and persistent intrusive thoughts. Dr. Seif sheds light on the paradox of thought suppression, explaining why efforts to evade certain thoughts only ...

Ever wondered why you don't trust your partner as much as yourself? Curious about the double standards you set in your relationship, often without realizing it? Tune in for an eye-opening discussion about trust dynamics in relationships. My deep dive is set to reshape your understanding of trust, insecurity, and jealousy. Why we give ourselves more liberty than we do our partners? I discuss the projection of our needs onto our partners and how this triggers an insatiable need for reassurance....

Are you ready to reignite the tingly energy of your inner masculine lover? That's precisely what this episode is all about, with our guest, Amy Lee Westervelt. Together, we address the habit of seeking external validation instead of harnessing internal energy and how to navigate the feelings of jealousy and insecurity that can arise in relationships. We also venture into the empowering realm of changing our inner voice. Get ready to tap into your inner masculine and create a protective and dev...

If you're someone who's insecure, you may be self-centered in a way you haven't thought of before. You may think everything is about you. All the problems, anything that goes wrong, if someone is upset. In this episode, I challenge you to start being self-centered in a different way. in a way that better serves you and even your relationship. This month's episodes have been about being in the present and this one is no exception as today is a great day to turn your focus away from your partner...

Do you know you might even be controlling when you argue with your partner? I know it may seem hard to believe because your first thought is probably... I hate arguing with my partner. I hate to say it, but as much as you hate it, you may be the huffing and puffing and blowing the house up just as things are going really well. If you grew up in a dysfunctional environment like I did, where every day there was drama, fighting or wondering when the next big thing is going to happen, you might be...

Dr. Joli Hamilton, a relationship coach and research psychologist, known for her expertise in the field of jealousy joins the show today. Her research explores the archetypal nature of emotions and their purpose, with a focus on jealousy in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. If you still feel embarrassed about your jealousy or continuously ask yourself "Is this normal or is this my jealousy?" then today's episode will mot likely hit the spot. Dr. Hamilton and Shanenn discuss:...

Is the attractive person sitting next to your partner at the dinner table a tiger? No, of course not. But yet, you respond with fight or flight mode as if it's life or death. You hate being uncomfortable and probably have never learned or practiced how to sit with uncomfortable. When you feel jealous, you want that feeling to go away as quickly as possible, and by any means possible, often leaving your partner and anyone around with the uncomfortableness of your actions as you try to relieve y...

Have you ever been more curious than you should be about your partner’s past lovers? Where one question about their past turned into five, which turned into ten, then felt that very uncomfortable pang of jealousy? This type of jealousy is called retroactive jealousy. One of the more insidious types of jealousy because it is referring to the past, which no one can undo. Retroactive jealousy can not only ruin an otherwise healthy relationship, it can also be detrimental to your mental health goin...

Recently, my husband and I traveled to Costa Rica for a conference. We stayed in a beautiful hotel overlooking the beach and had a ton of fun experiences BUT day 4 would send me into a tailspin I haven't been in for a very, very long time. In today's episode, I'm sharing lessons learned and why my mini meltdown is important to you. For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group ...

In today's quick dump episode, I share 5 statements I decided to stop making to my partner that changed the dynamic of our relationship. Most of the time, you don't even realize how the words you choose can come across. Even when you feel like you're being really clear or you mean what you're saying in the moment, these 5 statements are usually a signal to disaster. For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group What's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealo...

One of the reasons it took me so long to overcome my jealousy is because I kept getting stuck or there would be long periods of time I wasn't working to improve it. I started to notice a pattern of these times and today I am sharing 3 things that could be slowing down your progress of becoming more confident and overcoming jealousy in your relationship. Here are the 3 a makeup a breakup a hiccup but I dive deep into each one and give you some examples I experienced so you know what to look...

It all feels like its falling apart when you screw up and show your jealous side... AGAIN. But, there is an important mindset to have when you are trying to tame your jealousy and in today's episode, I'm sharing the importance of practicing, not mastering. For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group What's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie Website Connect with your host, Shanenn on Instagram Disclaimer The information on this podcast or a...

James Preece is UK's top dating coach and often compared to Will Smith in the movie Hitch. In today's episode he shares some differences and similarities of men and women when it comes to dating and relationships. Here are just a few tips and words of wisdom James shares in this episode: Women often unknowingly situate themselves in unapproachable situations. At the gym with their headphones on or going out in packs with our friends. Approaching a new relationship through the lens of ...

The truth is, we are hardwired as humans to not want to apologize. It is one of the most difficult things to do on a cultural and neurological level. Feeling as though we did something wrong and that we hurt someone is not the way we want to feel about ourselves, so in an instant our brain chooses to protect itself. However, what if apologizing was looked at through a different lens? What if we used apologies as a way to create better connections with a partner and make big changes that could he...

The aftermath of a betrayal can be devastating. So many questions, heartache and challenges that come when there is an affair in a relationship. Could you, should you try to rebuild the relationship? In today's episode, clinical psychologist, Ruth Ann Harpur who specializes in relationships, discusses the delicate work of rebuilding the relationship after a betrayal. Dr. Harpur says often the offender will "drip" information to the offended causing additional trauma with each unveiling of a ne...

If you've ever researched..."why am I jealous" you may have been left with more questions than answers. In this episode, Dr. Genesis Games walks you through what may be at the root of your jealousy and insecurities. You'll get a deep dive into each of the attachment styles and why it's important to know yours. Secure Attachment Anxious Attachment Avoidant Attachment Combo of Anxious-Avoidant (relationship fireworks x 10) Wondering how to feel more secure in relationships? Dr. G...