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Struggling with jealousy, insecurity, or self-doubt? You're not alone. Join Pattern Transformation Expert Shanenn Bryant as she combines humor, hard-won wisdom, and practical strategies to help you break free from the patterns keeping you stuck. From 2 AM social media stalking sessions to second-guessing yourself at work, each episode tackles the real struggles women face with jealousy, insecurity and confidence.



Pattern Transformation Expert, Shanenn draws from her experience and expertise in attachment theory to help women transform from overwhelming insecurity to unshakeable confidence in both relationships and career. Whether you're battling relationship jealousy or letting imposter syndrome hold you back in the workplace, you'll discover how to recognize your patterns, regulate your emotions, and transform your story.


Ready to stop letting insecurity and jealousy run your life? Subscribe now to start writing a new story - one that isn't controlled by old patterns or endless overthinking.

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What Your Hardest Feelings Are Trying To Tell You w/ Daniel Smith EP 137
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June 2, 2026

What Your Hardest Feelings Are Trying To Tell You w/ Daniel Smith EP 137

Purchase Daniels Book - Hard Feelings: Finding the Wisdom in Our Darkest Emotions In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Daniel Smith to explore a question most of us never stop to ask: What if the emotions you're trying hardest to get rid of are actually trying to help you? Whether it's jealousy, shame, envy, regret, or anxiety, many of us spend our lives chasing relief—seeking reassurance, distracting ourselves, or try...
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Still in Your Jealousy Hangover? Try This. EP 136
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April 28, 2026

Still in Your Jealousy Hangover? Try This. EP 136

You messed up. You spiraled. You said something you wish you could take back. And now you feel terrible — which actually means you're doing something right. Feeling bad after a jealous episode is healthy. It means you care. But there's a difference between feeling bad and living there. And if you're someone who stays in the spiral for hours, days, or even weeks after a jealous episode — replaying it, shutting down, telling yourself you're broken and unlovable — this episode is for you. Because h
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EP 135 Still Mad. Still Wrong. Here's Why.
April 7, 2026

EP 135 Still Mad. Still Wrong. Here's Why.

You knew you were wrong the second he flipped that phone around. Nothing suspicious. Just a bacon recipe. And somehow you were still annoyed at him. That feeling has a name — and once you understand it, you can’t unsee it. You’ve done the spiral. You built the whole case in your head. And then the truth came out and it was… a bacon recipe. You know you were wrong. They know you were wrong. And somehow you’re still a little irritated at them. This episode is about that moment — the one most peopl
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You're Already Living Worst Case Scenario EP 134
March 24, 2026

You're Already Living Worst Case Scenario EP 134

You’re Already Living the Worst Case Scenario What if the thing you’re most afraid of happening would actually hurt less than what you’re putting yourself through right now? It sounds hard to believe—but there’s real research behind it. In this solo episode, Shanenn digs into why the jealous spiral itself is the worst-case scenario—not the thing you’re afraid of. You’re not waiting for the bad thing to happen. You’re already in it. From Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert’s Impact...
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What If Your "What Ifs" Were Wrong EP 133
March 10, 2026

What If Your "What Ifs" Were Wrong EP 133

You know that voice in your head—the one that takes a missed text or a sideways glance and turns it into a full-blown crisis? That's your What If Machine, and it's been running the show for way too long. In this episode, Shanenn breaks down why your brain defaults to worst-case scenarios, where those fear stories actually come from (spoiler: it's usually not your current partner), and how those protective instincts end up creating the exact outcome you're terrified of. She also walks you through
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Secure People Just Think Differently EP 132
Feb. 24, 2026

Secure People Just Think Differently EP 132

We're on YouTube - Join us there. In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn explores one of the most confusing and isolating experiences for anyone who struggles with jealousy: watching a secure person stay completely calm in a situation that would send you into a spiral. Starting with a vivid poolside story that will feel painfully relatable, Shanenn breaks down why secure people aren’t blind to what’s happening around them—they just don’t assign the same meaning to it. She explains how yo...
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About the Host

Shanenn Bryant

Shanenn Bryant is the host of the Jealousy Junkie podcast and an ACA survivor. As a former jealous girl herself, she understands the painful range of self-conscious emotions and anxiety jealousy can bring to your relationship and the quality of your life.

Growing up in a chaotic and violent environment brought many challenges as an adult. Feelings of low self-worth, zero self-esteem and extreme jealousy in relationships.

After many years of struggling with jealousy, a lot of self discovery and self-awareness to overcome it, she is pouring her time, dedication, stories and conversations with experts in their field into this podcast to help support you on your journey to go from anxious and fearful in your relationship to calm and confident.

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"It’s so helpful to hear the honesty about struggling with jealousy! I felt really weird and alone for most all of my many years about this. Such a relief to hear it described from others. And to be e…"

C | March 9, 2023
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