Episodes

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn’t start in your mind—it starts in your body. If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just going to think positive thoughts” or “I’ll be chill tonight”—only to spiral the moment your partner picks up their phone—then go ahead and hit play now. Shanenn introduces a nervous system-based approach to jealousy, built around her signature BAM Method : Body And Mind . You’ll learn how to stop shami...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance. From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what we can do to reclaim our identity and energy. Whether you’re a high-achieving mom, coach, or recovering perfectionist, this episode will ...

In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn sits down with clinical psychologist and gratitude expert Dr. Peggy DeLong known as The Gratitude Psychologist to explore how gratitude can be a lifeline in life’s hardest seasons. Whether you’re navigating grief, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm, Peggy shares the science and soul behind why gratitude is most powerful on your worst days not your best . From the moment she found comfort in a cup of hazelnut coffee while sitting at her fiancé’s deathbed, ...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life. Whether you’re obsessively checking your partner’s texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pain from your past, Bob’s message is clear: your attachments are stealing your peace. Together, they unpack how detaching from control, perfection...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you’re nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, insecurity, or control—and what to do instead. From revealing instead of blaming, to communicating needs w...

In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who takes us on a remarkable path from growing up in an alcoholic household to achieving 16 years of sobriety and becoming a successful business coach. This conversation is packed with raw honesty, practical wisdom, and life-changing lessons for anyone struggling with relationship insecurity, unhealthy patterns, or leadership challenges. Leah's story is extraordinary – from IV drug use at 18 to finding lasting sobriety and purpose. But what makes this episode truly special is how she's adapted the principles that saved her life into powerful tools anyone can use, whether you're in recovery or simply wanting to show up better in your relationships and career. 🔑 What You'll Learn: - The surprising truth about "picture-perfect" families hiding addiction - How childhood patterns create hypervigilance and relationship insecurity - The game-changing question: "How am I complicit in creating condi…

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom. From his concept of "the house of your heart" to practical techniques like "embrace the digs," Dr. Stewart offers a refreshing perspective on emotional intel...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nurture lasting love and embrace conflict as an opportunity for growth. Golden Episode Nuggets: 💎 "The impact of our own personal growth work and turni...

🤣 🤣 Get ready to laugh your way through relationship real talk! In this episode, we're joined by the hilarious duo from the "We're Not Fine" podcast - relationship therapist Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen - for an unfiltered discussion about those "Is this normal?" relationship questions. Shanenn, Talia, and Doug dive into: The great memorabilia debate: Is it okay to keep items from past relationships? The Instagram thirst trap dilemma: When does looking become liking? The workplace flirt...

❤️ The Date Doctor is Here! In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony matchmaker, and author of the upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate." Dr. K shares her expert insights on building healthy relationships, understanding family dynamics, and navigating the modern dating landscape with authenticity and purpose. Key Moments 🎯 [02:04] The unique perspective of a therapist-matchmaker and the importance of having ...

In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance. Episode Highlights The development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skill How childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systems Why hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuition The physical and emotional toll of maintaining constant vigilance Key Insights 70% of children from alcoholic homes develop...

Wanna know the science behind being happier? Check out this week's episode with Tedx speaker and happiness expert Tia Graham. Tia Graham shares some powerful stuff about choosing happiness, managing triggers, and transforming childhood trauma. From practical happiness frameworks to deeply personal stories about motherhood and healing, this episode is jammed packed with valuable tools for anyone looking to increase their joy and emotional regulation. Episode Highlights: The SPIRE framework...

Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!) In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself. Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why your inner child needs a time-out from running your relationships. Key Takeaways Why are you testing your partner with "...

This episode is fire! 🔥 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn talks with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, who dropped a major truth bomb that made her stop everything: You’ll have to hit play to hear it. This may be the only thing you need to hear today! Dr. McGeehan, a licensed psychologist and performance coach specializing in empowering high-achieving female CEOs, shares the "Drama Triangle" and why we keep getting stuck in these relationship cycles. And you better believe Shanenn of course asked her how to get off the Drama Triangle cycle.

Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities. What We're Diving Into: The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfolio, showing up everywhere in your life from dating, to work, to relationships... all of it What Top Self is currently offering so you can make this...

What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now? Will it be the same thoughts you're having today? Will you're focus be on the same things? In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" or better known as a thought spiral and suggests you could try to do the opposite. What? Shanenn shares: How your thoughts have likely been your bi...

🎁 Only a few days left to claim your "Pay-What-You-Can" Coaching Session with me. This episode talks about the crucial difference between guilt and shame, and why one might be secretly sabotaging your relationship growth. Shanenn shares: • How guilt is like your relationship GPS - letting you know when you've made a wrong turn, while shame is more like a brick wall blocking all possible routes 🚧 • Why treating yourself like your own mean girl isn't helping (and what Brené Brown has to say ab...

Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time? Do you feel like you use your time wisely? When I am insecure and jealous, I don't! When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache. In this episode, Shanenn and Dr. Adam Dorsay talk about the concept of connection in our modern world. Despite being more technologically connected than ever, many people strug...

Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode. Key Takeaways: A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-opening fact) Only 20-23% of men cheat in relationships (Sorry to ruin your trust issues with actual statistics) Married people...

Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious. THE HEART OF IT The moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it) Why we feel the need to prove we're "not stupid" in relationships The protective pattern of...

🎙️ Where my freaks at? Control Freaks that is. In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour. Shanenn and Joanna talk about: How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been messing with you since you lost your first tooth 🛡️ The Jerry Maguire "you complete me" line is such a bad representation of the way relat...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears. Key Moments: - 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living...

Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread? Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship? I was there too but you can turn things around. Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference. It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over. Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal ...

🎉 Special Announcement: Join our FREE Two-Day Self-Discovery Workshop! Dates: November 4th & 5th at 1:00 pm ET Register at: topself.com/workshop I'm talking about you on this week's episode. The REAL you. Often we think we have to transform into someone else to overcome jealousy and insecurity and that seems like a huge feat to become your future self you want to be. However, you already ARE your future self. In fact, you are much closer than you think because its not about changing who you ar...