Episodes
What If Your "What Ifs" Were Wrong EP 133
You know that voice in your head—the one that takes a missed text or a sideways glance and turns it into a full-blown crisis? That's your What If Machine, and it's been running the show for way too long. In this episode, Shan...
Secure People Just Think Differently EP 132
We're on YouTube - Join us there. In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn explores one of the most confusing and isolating experiences for anyone who struggles with jealousy: watching a secure person stay completely calm in a situation that would send you into a spiral. Starting with a vivid poolside …
What It Means When The Spark Is Gone EP 131
Enroll Today for 30 Days to Different Does your relationship feel… quieter lately? The butterflies are gone. The texts are shorter. Affection feels different. And now your brain is spiraling: Did they lose interest? Is this my fault? Is the spark gone? In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks do…
3 Lies Insecurity Tells You Ep 130
🦋. 30 Days to Different is starting soon - ENROLL TODAY Insecurity doesn’t always scream. Sometimes, it whispers lies that keep us stuck. In this solo episode, Shanenn unpacks the three most convincing lies insecurity tells you—and why they feel so real even when they’re not. Whether it’s the urge …
Get It Out Of Your Jealous Head W/ Annette Furio EP 129
If you’ve ever felt stuck in a mental loop, replaying conversations, spiraling into insecurity, or feeling something is wrong but you can’t quite name it—this episode is for you. In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn sits dow...
Calm You vs. Anxious You. Who's Telling The Truth? EP 128
In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn breaks down a question so many people quietly struggle with—especially this time of year: Why do I feel calm and trusting with my partner sometimes… and anxious, suspicious, or insecure w...
How To Keep Your Reactions From Being Bigger Than the Moment EP 127
In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn breaks down why small moments in your relationship can trigger huge emotional reactions. If you’ve ever felt embarrassed by your reaction, overwhelmed by jealousy, or hijacked by anxiety ...
Why Your Anxious Attachment Picks Terrible Partners EP 126
If you've ever thought "I'm too much," felt shame around your jealousy, or struggled with feeling "needy" in relationships, this episode will be a relief and a revelation. Shanenn sits down with Trevor Hansen, coach and founder of The Art of Healing, to dismantle the shame loop of anxious attachmen…
You're Not a Jerk, You're a Genius EP 125
🦋 Join the experience - enroll in 30 Days to Different today! In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn flips the script on what it means to be “the jealous one” in a relationship—and trust us, you’ll never see your spirals the same again. Ever swear you’re not going to snoop, spiral, or snap... and the…
Do You Need to Change Your Partner or Your Patterns EP 124
Schedule your Discovery Call here In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn dives into one of the most exhausting relationship cycles—when you keep second-guessing your partner, breaking up, getting back together, and wondering if they’re “the one.” The truth? Your confusion isn’t about your partner. It…
What Would Your Life Be Like If You Weren't Jealous EP 123
Schedule your FREE Discovery Call In this powerful solo episode, Shanenn cracks open a question many of us quietly carry: “If I weren’t jealous… who would I be?” From the deck of a cruise ship years ago to the emotional trenches of everyday hypervigilance, Shanenn walks you through how jealousy fee…
Is Alcohol Making Your Jealousy Worse EP 122
Schedule your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call here In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets real about a silent habit that so many listeners can relate to—but few talk about openly: using alcohol to cope with jealousy, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm in relationships. From the glass of wine that he…
What Does It Mean If Your Partner Flirts EP 121
Schedule your FREE Discovery Call In this solo episode of Top Self, host Shanenn dives deep into one of the most anxiety-triggering scenarios in relationships: witnessing your partner flirt with someone else. Is it a sign they’re unhappy? Are they secretly interested in someone else? Or…could it me…
Why Your Brain Needs To Talk It Out EP 120
Enroll in the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp starting soon! In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn shares a deeply relatable scenario: it’s 10 p.m., you’re staring at your phone, spiraling over a text that simply says, “Okay, sounds good. Talk to you tomorrow.” If that’s ever sent you into an emot…
This Is Why Your Partner Is Not Meeting Your Needs EP 119
In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn breaks down one of the most common communication traps in relationships: expecting your partner to read your mind . Whether you're silently hoping your partner just knows you need a hug—o...
Is This What You Needed To Hear EP 118
In this powerful episode of Top Self , Shanenn Bryant delivers something your inner child may have never received: acknowledgment, validation, and the words you needed most. This episode is a gentle but honest space for anyon...
This Childhood Shame Is Holding You Back EP 117
Schedule Your Free Discovery Call Today In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets deeply personal, sharing the origin of the podcast and a powerful realization about the hidden shame many people carry from their childhoods. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide how you grew up—because of addicti…
When Safety Feels Scary EP 116
Book your FREE Discovery Call Ever started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’re not broken. You’re human. In this episode, Shanenn explores why “safe” love can trigger your nervous system, especially if you grew up in chaos or expe…
Tapping Into Emotional Freedom W/ Amy Vincze EP 115
Book Your FREE Discovery Call With Shanenn Watch on my Youtube Channel here In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn welcomes tapping expert Amy Vincze to explore how tapping can help release jealousy, insecurity, and emotional triggers. With over 17 years of experience, Amy shares how she went from sk…
3 Stages of Jealousy Management EP 114
Book your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help. 🎧 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down the 3 stages of jealousy that sabotage emotional security—and how to work through them. If you’ve ever felt stuck in spirals, constantly checking your partner’s phone, or craving reassurance just…
A Nervous System Reset For Jealousy EP 113
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn’t start in your mind—it starts in your body. If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just going to think positive thoughts” ...
Unhealthy Thought Patterns And How To Spot Them w/ Amy Kemp EP 112
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance. From subconscious thought l...
5 Daily Gratitude Habits to Quiet Anxiety and Reclaim Joy w/ Dr. Pegg…
In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn sits down with clinical psychologist and gratitude expert Dr. Peggy DeLong known as The Gratitude Psychologist to explore how gratitude can be a lifeline in life’s hardest seasons. Whethe...
Detach From These If You Want Love, Peace, And Clarity w/ Bob Rosen E…
In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run you...